I just finished my last class at 10:50 in Korean time (and I’m sleepy), but this is a long overdue entry (and I just got back from vacation), so I have to write.
“Breathe life into your story/Send them on to a safer home/Burn it into secrecy,” the Indigo Girls had sang. I’ve never been the type to tear up (Okay, once) or burn a letter (All right, maybe twice!). I used to think that it’s too melodramatic even for a drama queen like me.
I changed my mind just a couple of weeks ago, after listening to my pastor preach about soul ties… how they are formed, the kind of damage a soul tie can do to your future relationships, and why they cause you to stumble in your walk of faith. According to Shyju Mathew of Guarding the Heart, a soul tie is ” the deep bond that is developed between two or more individuals through an unhealthy relationship leading to addictive, manipulative or even violent behaviour.” Soul ties can be formed in various types of relationships, including those borne out of fantasy. Since I’m no expert in the matter, I would suggest that you read The Dangers of Soul Ties in his blog if your relationships are troubled right now, or if you had just gotten engaged and would like to make sure that you’ve tied all your loose ends before “I do,” or if you can simply relate to what I’m saying. (There you’ll read detailed explanations and learn how you can break those soul ties. I know I’m losing my reader this way, but the topic is just too important that I’d rather lose what little traffic I’ve got than bear the thought of a relationship failing due to lack of information.)
Going back to the topic of “burning letters,” I learned that getting rid of old photographs, letters, and trinkets from these unhealthy relationships is part of breaking the soul ties. Since I don’t have words to write about what I did–and it rarely happens–I’ll just show you instead. I must say it was a liberating experience.